Tuesday, July 19, 2011

One Big Happy Family

Some people have been rather horrified at the snickering about Marcus Bachmann and how he sets off a lot of people’s gaydar. Dan Savage has a response.

Gay people who point out how fruity Bachmann is aren’t saying there’s something wrong with being fruity, or gay, or with guys who look, speak, walk, or dance the way Bachmann does. A lot of us look, speak, walk, and dance that way. And we don’t think there’s anything wrong with us for looking, speaking, walking, or dancing that way—I’ve never met a gay man who objected to Modern Family’s Cam. And we certainly don’t think there’s anything wrong with being gay. But Marcus Bachmann sure does. He thinks there’s a whole lot wrong with being gay. When we point out that this same Marcus Bachmann acts like a huge homo—like a messy, married, dishonest, closeted version Cam—we’re hoisting that pansy on his own hateful petard.

Marcus Bachmann is attacking us and we’re we’re claiming him. We’re embracing him, we’re saying that we recognize ourselves in him, and that turns the stigma Marcus Bachmann promotes back on Marcus Bachmann.

The instrument has yet to be invented that can measure my indifference as to whether or not Marcus Bachmann is a closet case. It’s not like he had a choice, right? What I do care about is the damage that he is doing to people who, for their own reasons, are not happy with their life. He exploits their self-doubt and persecution, and that’s unconscionable.

I think Dan Savage is right; the best way to disarm this kind of bullying and loathing is to embrace it and claim it as part of the many facets that make up being human.

HT to mistermix.