Thursday, January 31, 2013

“A Reflection of Thoughts”

Chris Culliver, a football player with the San Francisco 49ers, made some off-the-cuff and derogatory remarks about gay people:

I don’t do the gay guys man. I don’t do that. No, we don’t got no gay people on the team, they gotta get up out of here if they do. Can’t be with that sweet stuff. Nah…can’t be…in the locker room man. Nah.

After a little talking-to from the team management — for gods sake, you play in San Francisco — he issued an apology:

The derogatory comments I made yesterday were a reflection of thoughts in my head, but they are not how I feel. It has taken me seeing them in print to realize that they are hurtful and ugly. Those discriminating feelings are truly not in my heart. Further, I apologize to those who I have hurt and offended, and I pledge to learn and grow from this experience.

“They were a reflection of thoughts in my head, but they are not how I feel.”


I’ll give him credit for apologizing, however awkwardly.  But what the hell is “that sweet stuff”?  That was not covered in the Gay Training manual… at least not in the edition I got.

7 barks and woofs on ““A Reflection of Thoughts”

  1. I think it was covered in the 1998 Gay Training annual supplement, Red States edition: the one that covered “wide stance” bathroom etiquette, “mentoring troubled youth” (including how-tos on sexting before preaching), and how to pretend your rentboy was hired as a luggage handler.

    As for the “thoughts in [his] head” – well, football players do get a lot of concussions. As long as it’s not the voices in his head…

      • This is a sharp crew. I had thought the /snark would be understood.

        Although yes, it is a decent excuse. TBI is killing football players both directly and indirectly (remember Junior Seau?), and there’s a lot of symptoms – including loss of memory and changes in personality – associated with that. I’m on the fence here, though: if it occurs to him to blame TBI for his words, then he’s immediately invalided out of football – but if he admits he’s an a##h#le, then the NFL can hit him with some (well-deserved) punitive action, but perhaps they’ll still let him play.

  2. Some years ago I read a long piece about black men and “the down low”. It isn’t uncommon for a man to have sex with another man (the down low) in whatever form works at the moment, but somehow they justify their needs and behavior as not-gay. The way this Forty-niner talked fits right in with that attitude … “that sweet stuff”? You got it.

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